Dare to live without limits Week of 8/24/20

Bryan Golden

Getting up more times than you fall is what’s important

You fell hundreds of times while learning to walk. Yet, you got back up each and every time. Each fall was a learning experience, not an indication of failure. A fall leads to failure only when you decide to not get up.
Once you learned to walk, how many attempts were required was irrelevant. All that mattered is you got up one more time than you fell. Learning to walk is impossible without falling. Similarly, any success in life involves falling as well.
However, falling is scary because it is associated with failure. Since we have an innate fear of failure, we focus on the fall instead of the recovery. This approach keeps you down longer than necessary. Whenever you fall down get back up as fast as possible. Nothing is gained from staying down wallowing in self-pity.
Don’t dwell on the cause of a fall. It happened. You can’t change the past. Lamenting what you could have done, should have done, or would have done is pointless. Instead, devote your mental energy to figuring out how to get back up.
View falls as learning opportunities. The more you fall, the more you learn. Successful people have fallen a lot, but they have gotten back up each time. In order to get the greatest benefit from each fall, determine the cause of the fall. Although there is nothing wrong with falling, you don’t want to fall twice for the same reason. Once you have identified the cause for a fall, decide how to avoid repeating it.
You are in command of your life. No other person or circumstance is responsible. Blaming external factors for a fall makes it harder to get up. Getting back on your feet is in your hands. Take responsibility, take control, and do what it takes to stand up.
Staying down is agonizing. You won’t get back up until you make it happen. It’s your choice whether to get back up or not. Waiting for things to improve accomplishes nothing. Effort and determination are essential for an effective recovery mindset.
Once you have fallen, think about all of the reasons for getting back up. Don’t waste time with any excuses for not doing so. People who fail to get up have numerous excuses justifying why they can’t. Since your mind believes whatever you tell it, you won’t accomplish anything you believe is impossible.
A possibility mindset powers your success. You have to believe in your goals in order to attain them. Having a burning desire to reach your objective is a powerful force. When learning how to walk, failure was not an option. You were determined to succeed and had no doubt you would.
Each fall leads to new opportunities. When a strategy doesn’t work as planned, you are compelled to discover a new approach. There is always a better way. That’s why falls are so educational. The more you fall, the more you learn.
Only positive action is worth taking. Avoid any action which harms others in any way. Ethnical or moral shortcuts ultimately lead to disaster. They are a dead-end road which leads off a cliff. Avoid associating with anyone who offers assistance at the expense of others.
Get back up with a specific plan for moving forward. Just like learning how to walk, your next step is the most important one. No magic is required. Any goal is reachable one step at a time. History has proven this fact repeatedly.
Recovering after a fall is a normal part of life which brings happiness and success. Encountering challenges is unavoidable. Whenever you fall, get back up, dust yourself off, and continue moving forward.

NOW AVAILABLE: "Dare to Live Without Limits," the book. Visit www.BryanGolden.com or your bookstore. Bryan is a management consultant, motivational speaker, author, and adjunct professor. E-mail Bryan at bryan@columnist.com or write him c/o this paper.  2020 Bryan Golden


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