Dare To Live Without Limits Week Of 4/18/2022

Be aware of whatever it is you’re looking for
Several people can go for a walk along the same path and yet each one will see something different. Each person is looking in a different direction; one person looks down, another looks up, someone else is looking to the side, and another is watching other people.
What you see in life is dependent on where you are looking. Two people, in the exact same situation, can have completely different experiences. It all depends on what they are looking at. You are in complete control over where you look. If you don’t like what you’re seeing, look somewhere else.
Continually looking behind you keeps you focused on the past. The past is over, it can’t be changed. Any time or energy spent lamenting what you could have, should have, or would have done is wasted.
Looking down prevents you from seeing what’s ahead. You won’t see where your next step is taking you. Looking down is short sighted, leaving you surprised when you smash into an obstacle you didn’t see.
Look ahead to determine where you are headed. Look as far in front as possible in order to anticipate what you’ll be encountering. The more lead time you have, the more effectively you can plan for the future.
Look to the sides for other options and alternate paths. Life is filled with choices. If you are dissatisfied with your current direction, look for other more appealing routes. You are always free to alter your course as your needs, desires, or circumstances change.
You may tend to continually look for problems. The goal is to solve problems, not obsess over them. Focusing on what is wrong in your life blocks finding solutions. Additionally, problem fixation attracts additional problems.
Look for solutions. You never know where you’ll find the answers you need. Inspiration for solutions may be found by observing how others solve similar problems. Since every problem identifies one or more opportunities, your current circumstances can provide clues for what you should do.
Are you looking at what you can’t do? Some people are in the habit of making excuses to justify why they can’t, or won’t do something. They are adept at concocting a litany of excuses which support their decision to avoid taking action.
You are better served by formulating just one reason why you can and will succeed. This is a powerful driving force which propels you forward. A burning desire to reach a specific objective keeps you motivated in the face of challenges.
It’s easy to look at what other people are doing in order to make a comparison with yourself. The achievements of others have no bearing on your life. What they have or don’t have is irrelevant to your objectives.
Look at your own desirable goals. Keep them in sight as you move forward. Create a step-by-step plan designed to reach your objectives. Then take action one step at a time. With each step forward determine if you remain on track. If you wander off course, make changes as needed to get back to your objective.
Don’t look at naysayers. People who criticize, whine, and complain will drag you down if you let them. They offer nothing constructive. You don’t have to defend your goals or explain why you are on your particular path.
Look at successful people who are where you want to be. Look at how they achieved their goals along with how they solved problems and overcame obstacles. You can learn a lot by studying those who have gone before you.
Maintain an awareness of where you are looking. Look toward your goals and watch for situations which can help you as well as those which can harm you. You are always in control of where you are looking.

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