Dare to Live Without Limits Week of 12/28/2020

Bryan Golden

Don’t let negative thoughts poison your actions

Any negative thoughts and emotions you carry around are a destructive poison which harms you mentally and physically. Anger, resentment, bitterness and jealousy are all toxic emotions. Ironically, they have little or no impact on the people they might be directed towards. The best thing for you is to let go of these poisons.
Avoid turning to destructive behavior in an attempt to mitigate negative poisons. Substance abuse, lashing out, blaming, or denial enhance the poisons potency. Distractions and diversions allow the poison to fester. Attempting to change others is a waste of time and does nothing to improve your mental state.
Be aware of your thoughts. Assess each thought as to whether it helps or harms you. Poisonous negative thoughts do not have to be a way of life. Don’t give them a permanent home. Let these thoughts go by replacing them with positive, constructive thoughts.
Break the habit of automatic negative thinking. Too many people habitually default to negative reactions to adverse circumstances. Constantly monitoring your thoughts is so important because it enables you to identify and let go of the poisons.
Your self-talk is a major component of your mental state. What you tell yourself programs your mind. Statements to yourself such as, “I’m so angry,” “I’m so upset,” “This is making me sick.” “I’ll teach them a lesson,” or “I’ll never forget what they have done” are all poison generators.
Positive self-talk displaces toxic self-talk. Some examples of positive statements include, “I’ll be OK,” “They won’t get the best of me,” “I’ll move past this,” “I won’t get dragged into someone else’s problem,” and “I won’t sacrifice my wellbeing.”
Develop and cultivate an attitude of gratitude. Start each day by reviewing the list of all you have to be thankful for. Appreciating all of your blessings keeps your mind on a positive track. This positivity is a powerful force displacing poison.
Your body language reinforces your positive self-talk. Negative body language such as frowning, scowling, or a slumped over posture counteracts positive self-talk. So, smile and maintain a confident, upright stance.
Although you can’t control other people or circumstances, you can control your response. Since your response is based on your thoughts, constructive thoughts lead to constructive responses. Once a problem is identified, look for solutions instead of more problems.
Be willing to change as you discover the incredible benefits of letting go of poison. Discard ineffective behavior which you have been hanging on to. In order to realize positive changes, you have to take positive action.
Keep your mind open to finding ways to improve. When you are feeling off, look for positive changes you can make. Don’t get stuck thinking there is nothing you can do. Proactivity is required to get rid of poison. Passivity keeps you mired in negativity.
Stop procrastinating. Take action today which gets you in motion to bring about the changes you want. Think in terms of what you will do, instead of what you should do, or are going to do. What you do today is what matters.
Don’t compare yourself to others because it leads to jealousy. What they have, or don’t have does not impact you. Follow your own path. Formulate goals which are meaningful to you. Engage in pursuits which make you happy.
You can be so used to holding onto poison that you are not even aware of it. Don’t accept poison as being part of life. Start today letting go of poisons one small step at a time. One small step forward is preferable to inaction. You’ll feel so much happier with each bit of poison released.

NOW AVAILABLE: "Dare to Live Without Limits," the book. Visit www.BryanGolden.com or your bookstore. Bryan is a management consultant, motivational speaker, author, and adjunct professor. E-mail Bryan at bryan@columnist.com or write him c/o this paper.  2020 Bryan Golden


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