Dare to live without limits Week of 10/5/20

Bryan Golden

Your words help to create your world; avoid the negative

Anyone who has read a novel understands the power of words. Words can set a mood, provide detailed descriptions, elicit intense emotions, and even create entire worlds which only exist in your mind. Words alone can make you happy, sad, elated, depressed, proud, embarrassed, or offended.
The words you use when speaking to yourself shape your perception, which creates your reality. Those whose self-talk is comprised of positive, uplifting words, see a more attractive world than people who tell themselves how bad their circumstances are.
Words are essential for communicating with others how you feel, what you want and don’t want, what you like and dislike, and describing your experiences to them. The words you communicate convey to others the nature of your world.
Words can create misunderstandings, anger, and jealousy. Or, words can be calming, reassuring, and confidence building. Words can be motivational or depressing, encouraging or disparaging. Your world is shaped by the words you hear combined with the words you say to yourself. Yet, people often speak to others and to themselves without being fully cognizant of the impact of those words.
The words you use when speaking to yourself create the world you experience. The words you say to others impact their world. As powerful as words are, they are too often used without first considering their impact on you or others.
Choose your words wisely. Think before speaking. Anticipate each word’s impact. Avoid speaking to others when you are angry, upset, resentful, or bitter. Allow yourself enough time to calm down before speaking. Using the wrong words at the wrong time creates problems which are difficult to undo.
Avoid destructive words when speaking to yourself. I’m so stressed, I don’t know what to do, I can’t figure anything out, I create problems, or I’m such a bad learner, are just some examples of the negative words people use for their self-talk.
Your brain is programmed by the words you choose. Your mind creates your reality based on what you tell it. Repetition is a powerful training tool. The words and phrases you use continually solidify the world you are describing to yourself. Whatever you say regularly becomes valid.
Avoid name-calling, self-criticism, or self-depreciation. Don’t gossip or speak ill of others. Any of these approaches consist of negative words which harm you. Any negative words you use against another person become poisonous to you.
Be especially careful to avoid combining absolutes with negative words. Telling yourself such statements as, “I’m always late,” or “I never remember anything,” intensifies the impact of negativity.
Use the power of words to your advantage. Phrase everything in positive terms. For example, instead of saying how much you hate something, say that you prefer something else. Talk about all that you like, rather than that which you dislike. Tell yourself what you want to achieve.
Be emphatic about all of the positive elements of your life for which you are thankful. Use words such as grateful, terrific, wonderful, exciting, exceptional, enjoyable, loving, and beautiful to describe the various aspects of your life. The more definitively positive you are, the better.
Surround yourself with all of the uplifting words you’ll be using. Write down and post these words around your home in order to read them frequently. This technique keeps refreshing your mind’s positive instructions.
Limit the time you spend with negative people. Their influence infects you with a negative vocabulary. Instead, associate with positive people who set a good example of the clear influence of positive words.
Using positive words when speaking to yourself and others creates a wonderful world in which each day is filled with joy. Start today replacing any negative words you are using with their encouraging counterparts.

NOW AVAILABLE: "Dare to Live Without Limits," the book. Visit www.BryanGolden.com or your bookstore. Bryan is a management consultant, motivational speaker, author, and adjunct professor. E-mail Bryan at bryan@columnist.com or write him c/o this paper.  2020 Bryan Golden


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