Dare to live without limits Week of 6/10/19

By: 
Bryan Golden

You can’t walk forward while looking behind

“Life is like riding a bicycle, to keep your balance, you must keep moving.” Albert Einstein

There’s a reason your eyes are on the front of your head. We are designed to look ahead to facilitate moving forward. Your feet face forward. Your legs are designed to walk forward. Time moves ahead, never backward.
Yet, too many people are looking behind them while they attempt to walk forward. It never turns out well. Invariable they wind up flat on their back, frustrated, and angry. They are mystified as to why they keep stumbling.
If you have any doubts about this, try walking forward while constantly looking behind you. What happens? You are certain to veer off track and crash into things. You will probably also trip and fall. In order to walk forward successfully, you must look where you are going.
As obvious as this is, a surprising number of people try to get through life while looking behind them into the past. They wonder why they can’t make much forward progress. These people are fixated on the last steps they took, instead of the next step they need to take.
The past can't be changed. However, you can learn from it what worked, and what didn't. Any time spent lamenting what has already happened is wasted. Your attention needs to be directed to what lies ahead.
The path you have already traveled has taken you to your current situation. If you are happy with where you are, remain on the same path. If you are unsatisfied with your circumstances, alter your path. Obtaining different results requires different actions.
Looking ahead at your next step is essential for getting to where you are going. What’s in front of you is more significant than what’s behind you. When moving forward you won’t trip and fall over an obstacle you have already gone past.
You are looking behind you when you worry about what could have been, should have been, or would have been. Since it’s impossible to make any changes to the past, any energy spent on looking behind you is completely wasted.
Learn from the mistakes you have already made. Repeating the same errors is a needless waste of time. Analyze each situation which has gone wrong to determine why it happened, along with what needs to be adjusted in order to prevent the same issue from reoccurring. Without this understanding, you are destined to experience the same problems.
You also want to determine which approaches you have previously used which have been successful. Repeating these strategies is a great success booster. Make sure you understand exactly what you did and why it worked. This insight facilitates your ability to duplicate your successes.
So, as you move ahead, stop doing what has been proven ineffective, and keep doing what has clearly been successful. This technique uses your past to propel you forward. You can do this while your attention is focused on your next step.
Having clear, well defined goals, also keeps you looking ahead. Focus your attention on what you want to accomplish, rather than what has already transpired. Your objectives are always in front of you, never behind you.
A burning desire for the benefits of achieving your goals is the fuel which keeps you progressing forward. Whenever you are tempted to turn your attention to the past, think about all of the good things which are ahead of you. The only way you will get to them is by taking the next step in front of you.

NOW AVAILABLE: "Dare to Live Without Limits," the book. Visit www.BryanGolden.com or your bookstore. Bryan is a management consultant, motivational speaker, author, and adjunct professor. E-mail Bryan at bryan@columnist.com or write him c/o this paper.  2019 Bryan Golden

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